Tuesday, June 12, 2007

-Maturit(ies)-

When one goes through different stages of life, everything about a person changes as they advance. However, everyone will go through different obstacles when reaching a brand new stage. This relates to their current personal characteristic, perception, attitude, thinking and of course, values.

There are always 3 categories of people living in this living world (to me):

1. The riches
2. The middle-class
3. The poors

Most people categories themself as the middle-class, or the poors. But, there are again, different meanings;

1. Morally, ethically and generously rich
2. The in-between (people who are still "searching for their identity")
3. Morally, ethically and undoubtly bankrupt

Often, when I think about these, I will ponder on, then try to figure it out in my head.. Why are there such big mismatches in these people lives. Why are some people rich, and not morally rich, but a bankrupt? Why are there people, whose in the middle-class/ poor being geniunely morally rich. This is one way that I feel how people use it as a gauge to judge maturity levels in a person.

Besides education, work experiences, traumatic setbacks, criticisms and environment, the most influential source (of mental growth) will be, somehow or rather, developed from your observations and "mimick" of own parent(s). Everything roots from how you were taught since young. Whether these values and virtues are still in touch with your heart is solely dependant of your own self-discipline.

Say.....

Parents who are richer (or in middle-class), naturally will be able to provide what they have to their children. Money enhances love, makes love more beautiful. The brand, the prestige, the value of their child is measured by material goods they are able to provide for them (just somehow or rather okie..). The hassle-free attitude to be able to give them their time, quality time, to make them feel loved. These children, are people who will be expecting more from the society. Because, they feel that they deserves it (too pampered).

To these pampered babies, people who are earning less, means people who does not really work hard enough, or simply, they condemned poor people to their bad lives, bad luck. Somehow, pampered babies (not all) thought working hard means more money (naive), means more sweat and some "important" people will start to admire this "never-say-die" attitude (even more naive). It is never really the case in the real world...

For example:

• Some Chinese women (in china) begged for sex in exchange for money. Why so? Because she need to feed her baby she's carrying behind her back. Because, job opportunities are so low (n high population in china) they simply need to work something they really hate. People call them cheap... but... are they really cheap? No. I don't think so.
• A middle age man who has his Masters now are not working for a 6-10k salary/ mth anymore. They are working for a 3k salary/ mth. Or worse, not even able to secure a job in Singapore with his qualification.
• A woman worked for 20 years in a bank, climbing the management ladder to her "success". Till now, she is still climbing. She is exposed to risk of over-taking. The fear and politics, who will understand it? Working hard doesn't necessarily mean more returns. Working hard is in exchange for her rice bowl, in fear, everyday.

Maturities, are the ability to see through, what others do not see. To me, it is an unspoken understanding you established with the society, balanced out between the riches, middle-class, and poor. Understanding their position and work out a way to be able to communicate with them in the best frequency platform. Ability to relate other people's situation as like yours, is the highest level of being sensible (TO ME). Maturity comes with age. Sensibility is a discipline. Some people can mature with their age, but never sensible. (like old man who nods wisely, but talks stupidly). HA!

I wonder, how do people see the world?

1. Cockiness/ Bragging/ Boasting = Immature
2. Playing kid computer games = Immature
3. Complaining / "tipping-off" / gossip = Immature
4. Fighting = Immature
5. Watching funny cartoons (transformers, barney, teletubbies) = Immature
6. Behaving (or talking) in an exaggerated and an extremely senseless manner = Immature
7. Stubbornly sticking to their own identity/ originality = Immature
8. Not having live pass you own age = Immature

What is your own opinion then? Immature is such a common world now, a cliche. Like "love". It has lost its very own meaning. Even a 10 year old kid, scolds another 10 year old kid "childish". ahha...

The world is upside down now... But people.. Maturity and sensibility grows together to exudes the power attracting to be respected.

I, just want to be a better person, to make the world a better place.. :D

Labels: better person, growing up, maturity

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